A gay man has been declared “not the asshole” by Reddit after he said he didn’t want to visit his dying grandfather. (Envato Elements)
A gay man has explained why he won’t be visiting his homophobic grandfather on his deathbed in a heart-wrenching Reddit post.
The man said it was “very evident” that he “played for the same team” as a child, writing: “I wasn’t transgender but I wanted to be a princess and at some degree my parents would allow me to dress as a princess, paint my nails.”
He said he was “extremely feminine and gay” growing up – and his grandfather was not impressed. He tried to “straighten” the boy by making him watch and play football, baseball “and other masculine activities”.
Hilariously, the grandfather’s actions backfired – watching men playing football helped him realise he was gay.
“When I started getting older, I worked at a car wash and started buying my own clothes,” the gay man continued.
“Heels, dresses, make-up and I couldn’t stop, I was euphoric about the fact that no one can stop me from buying my stuff as long as I worked for it. My parents didn’t like it but they accepted it.”
Gay man’s homophobic grandfather calls him a ‘fruit loop’
“My grandpa on the other hand wanted nothing from me, doesn’t look at me and behind my back calls me names and a ‘fruit loop’.
“Point is he is dying and my parents want me to see him but I don’t want to, that man never said anything to me that was encouraging and no [I don’t care] if he ‘fought for my freedom’, I’m tired of giving praise to old men who ‘fought for my freedom’ then get mad when I express it.”
Reddit was quick to declare that the gay man was “not the asshole” in the situation, with many rightly pointing out that his grandfather doesn’t have a right to see his grandson.
“Just because someone is on their death bed does not give them a right to see anyone if that person is not up to it, especially if they have been intolerant and jerk towards them for years,” one Reddit user wrote.
Another wrote: “Your grandfather didn’t love you as you were and tried to make you someone you’re not. Cutting him off is a natural consequence of this behaviour.”